3 Steps to Get Past Toxic Relationships
We all have relationships that feel like they “drain the life out of us” and which beg the inner question – “Do I have the energy to actually keep doing this?”
You know that relationship. The one where you feel yourself put up your guard, and suit up in an invisible armor of protection. You pray that you can hold it together, and not have a meltdown while you attend that obligatory lunch or meeting or social event. Pending any catastrophic slip of the tongue, you arrive home exhausted, and feeling “completely drained.” You may recover slightly only to start the whole process all over again at the next encounter.
This relationship is literally sucking the life out of you.
The tragic truth is that these relationships are stress triggers and will accelerate aging and disease in your body. You are actually feeling and seeing the effects– the exhaustion, the stomach in knots, and bags under your eyes. According to Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman, these feeling that we keep stuffing and effectively ignoring, eventually get imbedded deep into our body’s cells. In fact, Truman states that “90% of disease has an emotional component.”
Our cells are like file folders; our organs like filing cabinets; and our body like the safe that holds everything. These sometimes crippling emotions are locked away, sometimes never to be seen for generations. Relationships are your cauldron to transformation, and our very best mirror in life. In every relationship we have, files of information and emotions are being created.
In toxic relationships, these files may involve anger, hate, blame or rejection at some level. Unintentionally, this means you have also created an invisible negative energy loop that is sucking the life out of you
“90% of disease has an emotional component.”
So what is next? How can you possibly move forward to have more loving and harmonious relationships that don’t make you sick?
One of my favorite quotes in the world is by author Marianne Williamson, “A miracle is just a shift in perception from fear to love.” Your one second miracle is when you realize that you have been carrying garbage bags of emotions, triggers, and shame around for your entire life: Money stories, body stories and love stories that have been informed by your generational garbage and are taking away from your precious life today.
You have the power to change your life in this moment. Here’s how:
Make a commitment to yourself for at least 10 days to practice this meditation sequence for 5 minutes daily.
First, recognize that you literally carry garbage bags of unresolved emotional triggers.
Second, sitting comfortably in a quiet space, call upon your higher power to help you remove these toxic garbage bags of emotions out of your body. Imagine swimming inside your body, organs, and even bones searching for where you have filed this information, and begin to see them being lifted out of your body. Gather up all of these bags; remove them from your body and replace every cell with golden light. Ask to be shown the cords running through these relationships, and ask how you can disconnect. Be still and listen. You may see inner images in your mind, things that you hadn’t thought about for years, and then your body will begin to feel lighter.
Third, fill your mind with thoughts that love and miracles can happen in daily life. Become conscious and aware of your breath. As you breath in say “ I AM breathing IN miracles.” “My body is a miracle.” My life is miraculous. My life is filled with love. Love is my reality.”
Continue to repeat the breathing exercise until you feel your body and mind relax.
This practice will help you experience more ease, love, joy, and harmony in all your relationships. The super big bonus is that your health will be restored at a deeper and deeper level, as you consciously choose to heal your emotional life. Emotional and energetic mastery will change your life with your commitment to do the work!
Of course, you can choose to keep your “stuff” buried under the rug so to speak. However, I know you’re a conscious, empowered, big-thinking woman who is destined and deserving of greatness and our greatness and success comes when we become masterful — masterful with our emotions, which manifest our vision in reality and thereby create a legacy with our life.