5 Steps to Achieve Your Goals
“I want to make a change…but HOW?!” I hear it all the time from my clients. “The How” is an overwhelming place to be if you want to make a change in your life or career. Typically, my clients want to make a shift in their lives – a promotion, a new position, a new business, a new lifestyle – and being the action-oriented women they are, they step immediately into what needs to be done to achieve the goal.
Before we even think about the How, there are 5 crucial steps not to be missed if you want to ensure you achieve your goal.
What does success look and feel like?
This is super-important. What does “success” look and feel like to you? How will you know you have succeeded? It is a different answer for everyone – success to you might be a happy family. Success to someone else might be a happy family, a lovely, big home, and a stellar career.
It comes down to what you value. It is important to spend time journaling about this so you know what you’re aiming for. You need to be able to recognise success when it arrives.
Knowing how you want to feel is important too because it helps to anchor in the desire to achieve your goal.
Why is the goal important to you?
If achieving a goal is motivated by someone else’s expectations, you won’t have the intrinsic desire to achieve it. It must come from you; and if it isn’t important to you, it won’t be a priority.
So, be really honest with yourself before you set yourself a goal. If you set a goal you don’t feel close to, and excited by, you risk making yourself feel bad when you fail. You need to want to achieve the goal. It can’t be the desire of anyone else but you.
When we set goals because someone else wants us to, well, that’s not going to end well at all. The desire and motivation to succeed must come from within, not an expectation, demand or conditioning you’re conforming to.
Chunk it down
Often when we set a goal, our immediate go-to is, “but how?” The goal can feel overwhelming, looming large in front of us. The best approach instead of trying to “boil the ocean” is to chunk it down into smaller pieces, milestones you can achieve more easily and still lead you towards your end goal. It only takes one small step in the direction of your goals to move forwards.
Be present and celebrate each step
When you’re focused on a big goal, there is a tendency to think of nothing but the goal. Slow down. Appreciate and be present with where you are now. Each step you take is worthy of celebration and as the saying goes, “Success begets success.”
The more you celebrate each step, the more motivated and inspired you are to keep moving forward. It means being kind to yourself—accepting where you are, enjoying the process, and celebrating even the small successes.
High-achieving women can be brutally unkind to themselves when they’re not where they think they should be. Let go of that kind of self-imposed expectation, and be with where you are.
Get accountability and support
Find the people who get you—those who know what you want to achieve, support you, and are happy to hold you accountable to yourself and your goal. Surprisingly, the people to support you are not always your loved ones. Even though they may be well-intentioned, they may bring their own fears with them to the party, resulting in “nay-saying” and worrying that you are not acting in your best interests (or perhaps it’s theirs they are more concerned with?)
Check out social media platforms for groups e.g. LinkedIn or Facebook to find like-minded people with similar goals who want you to succeed regardless of their own agenda. A platform often overlooked is Meetup.com, a site that connects people with similar interests locally and across the world.
These five steps may be the difference between achieving your goals and not. Give them a go! I’d love to hear how they work out for you.