The Abundant Woman’s Guide to Self-love
Last month, I shared how I was embarking on a 30-day meditation exercise on self-love. 30 days on I want to share with you what I have learned during my journey into self-love. And how you too can incorporate an abundant self-love practice into your day. Regardless of how busy you are.
This process included practicing a daily 7-minute meditation. To keep me focused and on track I set hourly pop-up reminders on my phone with the simple phrase “I love myself”. But first, to take you back a little…
In 2016 I was working on average 80-90 hour weeks. This was a result of starting my coaching business in and around my corporate job. However, as the signs of stress and fatigue started to wear on my body and mind, I knew I had to make changes.
At first I believed that I could counterbalance the intensity of my weeks with yoga, green juices and massages. Despite such activities, my stress levels and adrenals remained off the charts.
I soon realised that if I was going to break the pattern of burn-out, that something more was needed. It was during my search for greater balance that I stumbled upon the notion of self-love.
Whilst I had always been an advocate for self-care, self-love as a concept was new to me.
To clarify the difference between the two: self-care are your external activities; whereas self-love is the deeper internal connection of the mind, body and soul.
As I began my daily meditation practice the first thing that arose was compassion. If I looked closely at how I was living my life, I had not been very compassionate to myself. Lack of compassion, for me, looked a little like this:
- Being hard on myself when I made a mistake
- Comparing myself to others and feeling bad for not being at their level
- Taking on too much then expecting too much from myself
- Giving into the daily mind chatter that was keeping me stuck
- Not asking for help or support when I needed it
As I sat on my meditation cushion each morning, when any thoughts that lacked compassion arose, I was able to meet these with love before letting them go. As I continued through the month, this feeling of love grew stronger – overshadowing the negative thoughts I had been experiencing.
As my practice grew, my thoughts of love turned to actions.
Rather than be hard on myself I began to applaud my efforts for trying. This resulted in me taking a lot more action in my business – making leaps and bounds.
I then began to sleep better as negative thoughts that had before kept me awake were replaced by thoughts of gratitude. By focusing on what I had achieved, I was flooded with genuine feelings of abundance each day.
My body and mind started to relax for the first time in months. I no longer felt like I had to be in control of everything, other than ensuring I was loving myself.
Most importantly, what I learnt was that I did not need to create any more time in my day (other than 7 minutes to meditate). The only thing that I had to do was learn to change my mindset which in turn changed my actions.
Here are 10 simple ways you can create more self-love and abundance in your life today!
- listen to your intuition and allow yourself to be guided by this
- be more compassionate with yourself
- don’t take on too much
- recognise when you need to ask for help or support
- don’t say “yes” when you really mean “no”
- learn to forgive others and let go of any resentment
- find your voice and speak up
- accept exactly where you find yourself
- pursue the things in life that bring you joy, no matter what
- keep a daily gratitude journal