How to Beat Negative Self Talk
One of the first roadblocks to getting to your ideal weight; or working out more, or getting rid of your sugar cravings is thinking that “you can’t do it”, or “it will be impossible.”
I don’t think I’ve ever had a client not tell me “there’s no way I’m giving up my coffee/bread/cheese.”
But here’s the thing–that’s just your programming. And your habits.
It’s also your primitive brain’s way of keeping you safe. Your primitive brain, or critter brain, is that part of your brain that’s responsible for keeping you alive. It’s in charge of things like your heartbeat and your breathing. And it HATES change. Even if that change is good for you. Because it perceives any change as a threat to your life.
Your critter brain wants to keep you safe. And to the extent to which you’re out of touch or haven’t been listening to your soul’s or body’s needs or desires will be relative to how much resistance you’ll get from your critter brain when you finally do tap into what you need to do to make a change.
It will feel alien; hard; wrong even, because your critter brain is a very rusty and old muscle that needs strengthening—but it’s precisely BECAUSE your critter brain is old and rusty that you need to keep powering through for your breakthrough —you can transform into anything you can imagine.
Your subconscious also believes everything you tell it. It doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong; between negative and positive; between success or failure…it literally believes ANYTHING YOU SAY TO IT.
So if you say ‘oh this is hard..oh I can never do this’..’oh I only accomplished x, y, z’..in a limiting way..then that’s what it’s going to believe and thats what it’s going to give back.
“Oh you think waking up early to workout is hard?…ok. it’s hard.”
“Oh, you think you’ll never be able to give up coffee or bread?…ok, I’m on it.”
A little self-criticism is a normal shared human mental pattern, and can even be healthy for the most part. But, the problem is when we open the door to that overly vocal “negative nelly” voice in our head.
Deeply held negative beliefs, especially when they’re firmly rooted in your unconscious, stress you out, damage relationships and can greatly limit your potential for health and happiness.
If you’re sick of having the same old conversation with negative nelly, then be sure to try some of the ideas here on how you can shift away from this damaging mindset, and finally release yourself of these limiting beliefs.
Change up the narrative you may have been having with yourself for a very long time! Your limiting decisions have shaped everything you do, and they have likely prevented you from seeing opportunities and maybe even discouraged you from trying some things at all.
The good news is that it’s totally possible to permanently change a long-held belief — even the ones that are lifelong. You only perceive what you believe, so your beliefs shape the very world you live in. But, when your limiting beliefs come into question, your whole world can experience a shift for the better.
When you find yourself feeling “stuck”, or repeatedly spinning your wheels on the same speed bumps that life might be throwing your way, it’s always a great idea to seek out the help and guidance of a coach, counsellor or therapist.
In addition to that, there are several things you can do on your own, in your own time and space.
The first step to releasing limiting beliefs is to shift your thinking into AWARENESS and bring those disempowering thoughts out of hiding. Once you do that, know that you have a choice.
However, just simply being aware or having knowledge of them is not enough, it’s just the first step. You must understand and truly believe that you have a choice about how to react to stressful situations.
Possible thinking, not just positive thinking. Your mind is a powerful thing, and when you fill it with thoughts of what’s possible (not just positive), your mindset will start to shift. When you believe something IS possible, you will notice options and opportunities coming up for you that would simply not have be noticed if you did not believe it was possible. With repetition, your positive feelings will intensify, the new neural connections will strengthen, and you’ll start to notice just how awesome this new “win” really feels.
Reminding yourself often of these little wins can further shift your mindset and help you embrace the bright side of your perceived “failures” or shortcomings.
It also helps to simply accept that you are perfectly imperfect, just the way you are!
If you wouldn’t say it to your friend, don’t say it to yourself. Your limiting beliefs are assumptions you make about reality that often aren’t true. They aren’t helpful, and they certainly don’t serve you or the goals you want to achieve. Ask yourself: would I say these negative, hurtful and unsupportive words to a friend?
Adopting empowering beliefs such as: “It is not my job to please everyone else.” “Just be me. There will never be anyone else like me.” To swap out your limiting belief with a more empowering one, you’ll need to play a little mind game: Convince yourself that the value you thought you were getting from the former limiting belief isn’t worthwhile, and that your new empowering belief can serve to fill this void.
Take some time and space that’s all yours. Ensure that you are creating space in your life for these new empowering beliefs. Take action and get into the habit of using your new beliefs as often as possible until they begin to feel comfortable, familiar and routine to you. Just remember – you have the ability to harness the power of the possible!
Overcoming negative self-talk and releasing yourself of limiting beliefs takes commitment, introspection and a good dose of self-confidence to make the necessary changes stick.
There’s the old saying that we view ourselves through a much harsher lens than the rest of world does.
So, let’s try to bring our own lens back into focus.
If you’re ready to change your limiting beliefs around yourself, your health and your body, then sign up for my 3 month personal coaching program here. This is a transformational health coaching program where we work on nutrition AND mindset to help you make the long lasting changes you desire. Get all the details and sign up here.