How to Have the Career You Want
Tell me, do any of these sound familiar?
You feel like your career has flatlined.
You watch people hired as your junior accelerate past you while you sit on the same level, same package, going nowhere. You’re not being taken seriously at work.
Your ideas fall flat, rolling down the boardroom table like tumbleweed, until someone else picks them up and claims them as their own.
You don’t like to ‘play the game’. You want your top-performing work to speak for itself, but you’ve come to realise, ‘playing the game’ is the only way these guys are getting promoted.
You feel like you’re a fraud. It feels like you’re riding a wave of success. At any moment you’re going to wipe out, and people will find out you’re not as good as they think you are.
How many did you say, “Yes” to?
These scenarios are symptoms of lack of self-confidence, and at a deeper level, self-doubt, and a lack of self-worth. They are all common symptoms that executive women come to me to improve, so they can reignite their careers and step into that leadership role they’ve been coveting.
The thing is, stepping into business leadership takes something I refer to as personal leadership. By demonstrating more personal leadership, your self-confidence and self-worth grow organically, while self-doubt is all but eliminated.
What is personal leadership?
- Believing in yourself, without requiring the belief of others for validation.
- Backing yourself, without needing others to back you.
- Taking responsibility for the decisions in your life, your behaviors, actions and outcomes.
- Investing in yourself, emotionally, physically, mentally, and even financially.
- Being aware of how you want to present yourself to the world.
- Being visible to yourself and to others, putting yourself forward and not resting on your good work to speak for itself.
- Having strong boundaries – “yes” means “yes”; “no” means “no”. No-one is respected more than a woman who sets strong, healthy boundaries.
Personal leadership is power, confidence, courage, strength, and self-nourishment, wrapped up in a well-cared for body, mind and soul.
When a client asks me how to jump-start her career, or how to get that prized leadership role, I look first to her personal life to see what habits, beliefs, and behaviors she demonstrates; because the way we do one thing is the way we do everything.
Demonstrating personal leadership, or how you show up for yourself in your personal life, has an unexpected ‘knock-on’ effect in your career. By taking responsibility in your personal life, you begin to make conscious decisions across all aspects of your life, feeling stronger, more confident, more in charge, and more powerful.
Sure, there are things you could probably do better from a career perspective such as more proactive networking, strategic salary negotiation, ‘managing up’ effectively, creating clear career goals, to name a few – and these are all important. Your career requires being savvy, while at the same time maintaining your authenticity, but by making conscious decisions and taking responsibility in your personal life, you’re more than halfway there to getting what you want in your career.
And THAT, my friends, is what leads to business leadership.
If you’re stagnating in your career, or missing the opportunities you aspire to, look first to your personal leadership. How are you stepping up in your personal life?
Shift that – you shift everything.
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