Inject More Confidence into Your Day in 3 Simple Ways.
As a coach to smart, capable and strong woman all over the world the one thing I couldn’t help but notice was that despite their age, demographic or profession most still craved one thing in their lives: Confidence.
This led me on a path to uncover not only what confidence really looked like, but what it felt like. If I could discover what it felt like, then I believed I had a much greater chance of being able to teach each of these woman how they could feel, look and act more confident in their own lives.
Following my research, I believe confidence to be based on 3 key principals:
Think Less. Too often I find we over-analyse everything. This could range from worrying about whether or not you know enough, to how it will be perceived to what others will think if you get it wrong. Thinking too much often keeps us stuck as we get caught up by the “what if’s” of life. In order to generate more confidence, we need to stop overthinking everything and instead focus on how we want to feel. By focusing on this, we are then able to look at what we need to do in order to generate that feeling.
Focus on progress over perfectionism. Let me start by asking you a question? If you were to focus on progress over getting something perfect, how quickly or willing do you think you would be to begin today? When did perfect become the expected norm for you? Is it something that is still serving you or is it stopping you from trying? When we remove the expectation of perfect and instead replace this with progress, we can immediately begin to start trying. Confidence never comes from perfection, but rather through doing something so often that it becomes second nature.
Take action. Feeling confident is something so many of us strive to feel, however we cannot feel confident without ‘doing’. Doing comes from taking action. It is not enough to take action once but rather we need to take action again and again in order to feel competent with something. My mentor once told me “it is always awkward before it’s elegant” and this can be said about becoming confident. The first time or even several times you do something, it is likely to feel awkward because it is new. Stick with it and before long it will feel elegant.
Confidence is not something we will wake up one day and feel, but rather is something we generate by committing to take action.
Knowing this means you are in control to generate this feeling through action at any point in your life or career. I believe that when we realise that the power was always within us to generate this feeling, our ability to tap into this on a daily basis becomes a lot less daunting then once thought.
By thinking less, focusing on the progress we make by simply taking action allows us to gain momentum that will quickly spill over into other aspects of our lives.
Confidence breeds confidence, so the less we think and the more action we take remaining focused on the progress that we make, the more confident we will begin to act and feel. It really is that simple.