Learn to Receive
Learn to receive. The more we can, the more we can give ourselves. I am sure you have heard the saying ‘you cannot pour from an empty cup.’ Well it is true.
Often we go through life without realising that what we want is alot closer than we think! If this is the case, then why do we miss it? Well, I believe a large reason for this is due to the fact that we, as women, are not very good at receiving.
This is something I realised only recently myself. Which led to me looking into why this was the case before working out how I could overcome this.
If you are a woman who is used to giving then know this article was written especially for you!
As women we have been conditioned to be caretakers. Whether this be in our roles as mothers, wives, sisters, aunts or daughters.
As a caretaker, it is natural then to be in a constant state of giving or providing to others. Which can lead to living a life where our needs are met only once everyone’s needs near and dear to us have been met first.
Living in a state of giver is out of balance with the natural flow of life. To create balance, you therefore must spend time in the role of both giver and receiver. If you have spent years or even a lifetime of being in the role of giver, making that switch can feel difficult or even uncomfortable.
So how can we make this switch so that we are living a more balanced life, so that both our needs and those of our loved ones are being met?
Drop the Lone Ranger act. Two pairs of hands are better than one right? Then why do we think we need to go it alone? Something I have learned these last few years is that by seeking the help of others, not only has my life become a lot easier but it’s become fuller. By allowing others to help or share the load, we ultimately have more to give.
Ask for what you want. Let me ask you– when was the last time you actually asked for what you wanted? Growing up I was taught that it was impolite to ask for something. This developed into a belief that I carried well into my adulthood. When I realised that often all it took to receive what I wanted in life was to ask for it, my life became a lot more abundant. Oprah says “We get in life what we have the courage to ask for.” Ask and you are most likely to receive.
Receive with grace. Have you ever found yourself brushing off a compliment even if it was true? Maybe you lost some weight and someone you hadn’t seen for a while noticed? Despite it being true you find yourself brushing away the compliment. Why is this? Well, receiving a compliment is no different to receiving anything else in life. When we realise this, the art of receiving can become a lot easier. Just as you know the right thing would have been to smile and say “thank you” for the compliment, as is the case with anything else you receive. So next time somebody offers you help or support with something smile and say “Thank you, that would be wonderful.”
Gratitude goes a long way. When I realised that I could alter the way I felt about being on the receiving end, I started to receive much more in life. I then added to this state by tracking and reflecting each and every thing I had received that day. From an unexpected act of kindness to my husband’s love and support. This not only allowed me to be grateful for what I had but made me see that receiving could feel really good. When we realise this, we can drop the guilt and then give more openly and fully to those around us.
Learning to receive like any new behavior can feel odd or uncomfortable at first but the more you practice it, the easier it will become.
By opening up your mind and your heart to receiving, you will naturally create more abundance in your life and start attracting more of the things you want.