Reclaim Love and Appreciation
A frequent complaint from working mothers is not feeling appreciated, supported, or loved. Here are ways to reclaim the love and appreciation desired by every mother.
Here is a typical story I hear from working mothers:
I decided to excuse myself early from work and take my child out for some quality time. We played together and had fun, ate, and bought balloons and candy. When it was time to go home, I was suddenly faced with a huge melt down; screaming and shouting, pounding the floor in protest all while passers-by giving me that “look”.
I am tired, embarrassed, humiliated, and feel unappreciated and unloved. I just scream back; “I left work early to take you out and this is how you thank me. Get up right now and move.” I announce angrily: “We are going home now”.
I go home and my partner is complaining about not having the food he likes ready, and how I neglect him. He doesn’t even greet me or ask about my day, and instead picks up the phone to make a delivery order. I am carrying my child who has since fallen asleep to get washed up and into his pjs for bed.
Of course, he wakes up crying and resists my plan until he settles in his bed. I go into my bedroom and break down into tears. I feel unsupported, unloved, unappreciated, and lonely.
It doesn’t have to be that way. You have the power to change this scenario or any other similar scenario that you’re not happy with. Taking charge of your life and how you wish others to treat you is within your power. You just need to shift your awareness and recognize that power inside of you to get that love, support, and appreciation you desire.
Here are a few ways to reclaim that power:
Many women expect others to make them happy; only you can make yourself happy. It is a choice you can make without depending on someone else or waiting for their permission.
You cannot control others, but you can control your thoughts and emotions and act in a way that can influence how others treat you.
You have the right to ask for help and support from others. However, the timing and the way you ask for it will determine how others will cooperate.
You are enough as you are. You are probably doing your best to make those around you happy and loved. But understand that they are humans and that they might be having a bad day, and you just happened to be there at the wrong time! Go easy with yourself. Either ask what is upsetting them if you can, otherwise do something to calm yourself down then ask them some other time when you feel like it.
If and when something said or done upsets you, work it out right away because it won’t get resolved on its own. Just be wise about picking the right time, and place.
There are many underlying reasons for a tantrum. If it happens frequently look for a parent coach to help you understand more about why it might be happening with your child and how to best prevent it, or to learn possible solutions to get you through it.
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