How many times have you read a success story of someone who completely changed her way of eating; lost all the stubborn weight and wished it was you?
And how many times did you think to yourself, as you read her story–“this sounds really easy..”? or “well, her circumstances must be different from mine–she probably doesn’t have 3 kids and has more time,” or “she probably doesn’t work all day and then comes home to cook for her whole family,” or “she probably has a lot of help at home.”..?
The truth is, all of these circumstances may be true and every client is different. But the particular circumstances aren’t the reason behind the success–so don’t use them as your excuse.
If you want to be a success story you need to follow these 6 steps–just like everyone who changed their lifestyle did:
Decide to succeed
Make it an absolute non-negotiable, not just something you’re going to “try” or something you are “curious” about, but literally be hell bent on making it work.
Chances are higher you will fall off a plan that starves you-period. If you’re hungry you will eat. The reason people fall off plans all the time is that they’re following the old models of restricting calories or doing portion control.
Appetite is hard-wired into our systems, it’s what gives you the signal that you need to nourish your body, so any plan that goes against this natural hard wiring will eventually backfire.
Chances are also high you will fall off a plan that you don’t understand. We are smart women and you can’t dumb things down for us and expect us to follow blindly and succeed. That train has passed.
You need a plan that speaks to your intellect-one that works with your mind and emotions as well as your body.
If you don’t have the kind of support you need -and that’s different for everyone-you can only go so far.
This is key. You can have the right plan; the right support; and the desire. But if you’re not down on the basic logistics of preparation, you’re setting yourself up for failure at some point.
Preparation is 90% of success.
Ok. So now you’re set to go. You have your plan; you’ve worked on your mindset; you found support; and you’ve prepped your kitchen to perfection.
But then you have a hard day at work; a fight with your husband; your kids stress you out; or you’re withdrawing from sugar and you really need a little something..and you give in.
It’s not the end of the world. This isn’t a linear process by any means. You will keep going forward and a little bit backwards—for awhile actually—simply because you are changing YEARS of dietary habits. It won’t happen overnight.
But here’s what differentiates the success stories from the ones who give up at the first mess up: They pick up and keep going. Without drama.
I always tell my clients, eating is an experiment, that’s it. There’s no GUILT around food and there’s no drama. Sometimes you eat and the experiment is amazing—you feel great and you lose weight. And sometimes the experiment isn’t so good and it backfires. But you know what? That’s just information..and part of the ongoing experiment.
Pick up and keep going. The reason so many women stay stuck in the place of “oh I’ve messed up so there’s no point anymore” is because for some reason we associate food with guilt. We feel guilty for eating something not on the plan and the feelings of guilt overtake us and keep us stuck.
Remove the guilt
Start to reframe how you see food. Look at food as food-no emotions attached, and move on. Your body will even process that food better if you simply enjoy it rather than attaching the guilt to it.
The success stories you read are not about smooth sailing. On the contrary.
My clients who have succeeded have succeeded in this: in overcoming their feelings and guilt around food-not in eliminating their indulgences and pleasure in food.
They still indulge, but they do it guilt-free and drama-free. Even if it’s in the middle of the plan. I don’t have a single client who has never backtracked–myself included.
It’s actually expected as part of the process, it’s how you remind yourself and motivate yourself to keep going.
So when you’re reading a success story, what you’re actually reading is how that person has fine-tuned their ability to keep going. Not their ability to never mess up.
They all mess up. Trust me when I tell you there are plenty of tears and breakdowns. But it’s working through those tears and tantrums and mistakes that makes them successful. Not any linear process. Not consistency in eating, but consistency in being tenacious and accepting “failure” as part of the process.
…we call it failing forward.
So it’s not about never having a chocolate bar again. That’s not success. In fact, that probably wouldn’t be very successful because that would mean you really haven’t grasped the concept of balance..
And this is what we work on in my Empowered Beauty 90 Day Program. Because you need time to course-correct and tweak; to learn how to be tenacious; and to give yourself the space and the container to make the changes you need to finally make.
We start Feb. 17! Get all the details plus your Early Bird Special here and let’s start to create YOUR success story:))
As an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, Dana Dinnawi is in the business of showing strong, smart, independent women how to take back control of their lives from what they eat and how they look, to what they do and how they feel.
She helps women get out of the frustrating cycle of yo-yo dieting to shed the last stubborn kilos, teaches them what to eat for life so they can regain their energy and self-confidence and so that they can refocus on themselves and create a guilt-free lifestyle that fills them up daily.